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We've found the G-spot, say the French (of course)

By Tamara Cohen
Sorry lads, the search is back on again.

Weeks after British scientists announced that the elusive G-spot does not exist, the French have begged to differ.

A meeting of gynaecologists in Paris denounced the British study as fundamentally flawed and accused its authors of disrespecting women.

Elusive: French scientists said their British counterparts were simply unable to find the fabled G-spot (picture posed by models)

Researchers at Kings College had studied 1,800 women and found no evidence of the fabled erogenous zone.

They said it might be a myth encouraged by magazines and sex therapists.

But their counterparts across the channel - quick to defend their nation's reputation as better lovers - say the Brits were just unable to find the spot.

Conference organiser Sylvain Mimoun declared that 60 per cent of women have a G-spot, it just needs to be discovered.

He said: 'In discovering the sensitive parts of her own body, this sensitive zone will become more and more functional. But if she has never touched it and no one else has ever touched it, it won't exist for her as a consequence.'

Leading French surgeon Pierre Foldes said: 'The King's College study shows a lack of respect for what women say.

'The conclusions were completely erroneous because they were based solely on genetic observations.

'It is clear that in female sexuality there is a variability. It cannot be reduced to a yes or no or an on or off.'

Gynaecologist Odile Buisson went further, saying the British character was responsible for a 'totalitarian' attitude.

She said: 'I don't want to stigmatise at all but I think the Protestant, liberal, Anglo-Saxon character means you are very pragmatic.

'There has to be a cause for everything, a gene for everything. It's totalitarian'.

In the British study, published in the Journal of Sexual Medicine, 1,804 women between 23 and 83 filled in questionnaires. All were pairs of identical or non-identical twins.

If a G-spot did exist, it would be expected that both identical twins, who have the same genes, would report having one.

But in cases where one twin reported having the zone, the scientists found that no pattern emerged of the other having it.

In fact, identical twins were no more likely to share a G-spot than non-identical twins, who only share half their genes.

Co-author Andrea Burri said: 'It is rather irresponsible to claim the existence of an entity that has never been proven and pressurise women - and men too.'

Revive your sex life (before it's too late)

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Sexual fitness is a crucial part of a happy and healthy life. Studies have shown that an active sex life has numerous physical and emotional benefits, including decreasing stress, improving the immune system, and promoting a healthy reproductive system. Not to mention, an enjoyable sex life can help bond you and your partner and keep your relationship strong.

Despite these numerous benefits, many people neglect their sexual fitness. Unfortunately, when you ignore issues in your sex life, whether it is a lack of libido or a sexual response issue, they can fester and cause serious damage to your relationship and your sexual confidence.

Are you are ready to resuscitate your sex life before it is too late? Here's how:

Visit your doctor. Your physical health and sexual health are linked. A visit to your doctor can help ensure that everything is working smoothly.

To the ladies out there, this includes a visit to the gynecologist! Not only are regular pap smears and cervical exams important for detecting potential health issues, these visits also are a good time to talk to your doctor about sexual complaints. Your gynecologist can help you with a wide array of concerns, from helping you determine which birth control method is right for you to treating difficulties, such as painful sex.

Create a healthy lifestyle. Your sex life can be negatively affected by poor lifestyle choices such as a high-fat diet, lack of exercise, lack of sleep and stress. Smoking and excessive drinking also can affect your sexual response.

When you eat well, stay active, and get plenty of rest, you won't just see the effects on your waistline — you also will see the effects in your sex life. Your libido and sexual response will improve, and you will feel more confident and sexy in your own skin.

Look in your medicine cabinet. Sometimes poor sexual fitness can be caused by medication. For example, oral contraceptives cause reduced testosterone production and increased production of the sex hormone binding globulin (SHBG), which reduces circulating levels of testosterone. These hormonal shifts can lead to decreased sexual desire in women.

So what do you do if you want to maintain your sexual fitness — without risking pregnancy? Try a low-dose estrogen pill. You also might consider NuvaRing, a vaginal ring with a low dosage of hormones that is inserted monthly. NuvaRing is not processed through the liver and therefore does not increase levels of the sex hormone binding globulin (SHBG).

Other medications such as anti-depressants, antihistamines (such as Benadryl, Allegra, and Claritin), and anti-cancer drugs also have been associated with decreased sexual desire. Ask your doctor about similar medications that might have a decreased incidence of sexual side effects.

Exercise your Kegels. Kegels are an absolutely essential part sexual fitness. By clenching and releasing the Kegel muscles (the muscles that control your urine flow), you will strengthen your pelvic floor and tighten your vaginal muscles. As a result, your orgasms will be stronger and more frequent, and your partner will love the sensation of your strengthened vaginal floor. You can do them throughout the day and build up your reps daily, and you can even do them during sex for added intensity!

Embrace your sexuality and make your sexual fitness a priority. Your whole life will benefit as a result.

Dr. Berman hosts "The Dr. Laura Berman Show" from 4 to 6 p.m. weekdays on Oprah Radio (on XM 156/Sirus195). She also is a regular guest on "The Oprah Winfrey Show" and "The Dr. Oz Show."