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Check out the best of the sex from 2009

December 17, 2009

9 Most Provocative Sex Science Stories of 2009

Thursday, December 17, 2009

By Sally Law

We've loved. We've learned. And we've had some of our sexual suspicions confirmed by scientific research. As 2009 comes to a close, LiveScience looks back at the year's nine most intriguing sex lessons.

1. Sex smells. A man's sweat smells different when he's sexually aroused — and women can tell the difference between the smell of sexual sweat and the regular stuff, according to a study in The Journal of Neuroscience.

2. Pulling out works. Well, most of the time. In a paper published in the June issue of Conception magazine, researchers claimed that withdrawal was "almost as effective as the male condom" when it came to pregnancy prevention (a failure rate of 18 percent, vs. the 17 percent failure rate of condoms).

3. Child's play. An Iowa State University study found that 25 percent of children — ranging in ages from 11 to 16 — in low-income households reported having sex. The average age of first intercourse for that group was 12.77.

4. Growing pains. According to a study from the University of Turin, penis extenders might work — a particular brand that used traction to gradually stretch the penis over time was found to increase members' length by almost one inch.

5. The pursuit of pleasure. Men who are very sexually active in their 20s and 30s — especially those who masturbate frequently — are at higher risk for prostate cancer, said researchers at the University of Nottingham. But that risk decreases as a man ages, and once he's in his 50s, even small levels of sexual activity can help protect him from the disease.

6. Pill popping. In February, the Federal Drug Administration mandated that Bayer, the manufacturer of Yaz birth-control pills, fix their commercials that promoted Yaz as a weapon against acne and PMS and downplayed its potential health risks.

7. This is a test. The American College of Obstetricians and Gynecologists released new guidelines for cervical-cancer screenings: Women should wait until age 21 to get their first Pap smear, and should be checked every three years (instead of annually) if they have a history of normal test results.

8. Not yet. According to research published in the Journal of Theoretical Biology, women who hold out on sex are acting on a biological impulse to find more suitable providers — and men are waiting to prove that they're up to the challenge.

9. Role reversal. Men feel guiltier following sexual infidelity, while women feel worse after an emotional transgression—and both are incredibly self-involved.

"If an individual assumes that everyone, regardless of their sex, is most concerned with the same form of infidelity that they themselves are most concerned about, this person would consequently make false inferences leading to feelings of guilt," said researcher Maryanne Fisher, a professor at St. Mary's University in Halifax, Canada.


Male Sexual Scripts….

Filed under: Sex in the News

November 9, 2009

Making Out to Having Sex: Male Sexual Scripts
Monday, 09 November 2009 00:00

The standard gendered stereotype that depicts male preferences for casual encounters is repeated ad nauseaum. Most popular films construct male characters as uncaring, sex obsessed mammals attached to needy appendages. A viewer can be fooled into thinking that the bulk of male society prefers 'meaningless sex.' Is that a true observation?

Phrases like 'hooking up' and 'friends with benefits' are easier on the ear than 'one night stand,' and 'booty call.' The latter terms two tend to guarantee sex as an outcome. All four terms have one thing in common: they serve as scripts.
Scripts are part of our everyday lives. It can be said that scripts are essential elements of everyday life. Without them, we wouldn't be able to make sense of our lives or categorize our interpretations. A script is like a blueprint, in that it relates to sequences of events. Taking the first phrase, 'hooking up' as a script, we would tend to associate a casual date with the term. Sex may an optional extra in the hook up; most adults are aware of the option. In other words, the script for a hook up will include a meeting and this meeting will resemble a date of sorts that may conclude in sex. Whether popular media and film generate these scripts is open to debate, but they are present.
According to recent research (Epstein, Calzo, Smiler & Ward, 2009), men don't satisfy the ongoing stereotype and tend to reject standard 'non-relational' scripts. The other surprise is that the casual attitude toward sex isn't universal and men violate non-relational scripts by the desire to form an emotional bond with their partner.
In order to satisfy the 'hooking up' condition, men -in theory- should be able to compartmentalize their encounters however this doesn't appear to be the case. Despite popular media and literature, relationships are what they are or what many suspect they are - complex on all levels: sexual, emotional, social, etc.
In the study conducted at the University of Michigan and State University of New York, the researcher's goal was to examine men's non-relational sexual experiences. 97 male participants were chosen from a college population and interviewed. Their age ranged from 18 to 23 and their sexualities varied. The results of the study indicate that most men within the specified age range are aware of modern non-relational terms such as hooking up and friends with benefits. Not surprisingly, the majority of candidates were aware of the difference between casual or non-relational and relational encounters.
Dating and hooking up are two different entities. Participants clearly defined dating in terms of its proximity to the relationship script, whereas hooking up was an entirely different animal. In addition, the research indicates that standardized definitions may not apply, with participants providing their own amended definitions that blur the fictitious distinction between the stereotyped emotional-free sexual 'hook up' and the meaningful dating process. Some men had difficulty separating emotion from the casual sex while others were governed by their solid emotion free script that the researchers describe as “a lack of emotional reaction to the partner or the experience.”
Irrespective of the contemporary reality of hook ups, there were men in the research sample who refused to enact the script within their lives. In so doing, these men did not engage in hook ups and this refusal tended to reflect their long-term relationship expectations. Those who were open to casual encounters in the past either regretted them or experienced tension in negotiating the emotional-sexual line. Can emotion be pruned from casual intimacy?  According to the research interviews, emotion is always present. Even the tension within the expectation to maintain an emotional distance indicates the opposite. Contrary to the sexual ease portrayed in mainstream and pornographic media, it is extremely difficult, or near impossible, to excise emotion from sexual intimacy.

Epstein, Marina, Calzo, Jerel P., Smiler, Andrew P. and Ward, L. Monique(2009). Anything From Making Out to
Having Sex: Men's Negotiations of Hooking Up and Friends With Benefits Scripts',Journal of Sex Research,46:5,414-424

© 2009 Lucrezia Magazine


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