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Wondering how you can use sex toys to spice things up?

Filed under: Great Sex Tips, Relationships

February 17, 2010

How to Spice Up Your Sex Life With Sex Toys?

Did you know that sex toys are more commonly used by couples than by singles? Find out about couple sex toys, their popularity and much more here. You will be surprised to know a lot of things, which can change your life for the better.

According to studies, women who are in a relationship are more likely to use sex toys than women who are single. This research leads us to the fact that couples use sex toys during sexual intercourse and it is not single, lonely women who use sex toys to make up for the absence of men in their lives, as most of us think. Also, couple toys are more in demand than masturbation toys. These sex toys are bought to enhance the sex lives of people to add variety to dull routine sex. Find out more about sex toys and their rising popularity below.

Sex toys and their rising popularity

The early days of sex toys were mostly dildo shaped or resembled fake vaginas. These sex toys looked sleazy and offensive. During the last decade, we’ve witnessed a sexual revolution and now there are a variety of sex toys available that are meant for couples as well as for solo use. These new age toys have been ergonomically designed, are aesthetically pleasing and are completely discreet. This made sex toys quite popular amongst people and the internet also further increased their popularity. The fact that you can buy sex toys safely, easily and anonymously made sex toys easily accessible and people started to take advantage of this fact.

Importance of sex toys in a couple life: Popular couple toys

It isn’t hard to believe that a few years into a relationship sex can become monotonous causing people to lose interest in it. It is important that couples try out new things to add variety to their sex lives. Sex toys help make sex more exciting by providing the much needed boost and variety to the relationship. Sex toys keep the heat of passion alive by providing deeply satisfying orgasms to both the partners. Here are a few couple toys that have done their jobs wonderfully well and are helping couples to keep the sparks flowing in the bedroom:

•Vibrating cock rings

Cock rings have been around for a very long time but new age cock rings do much more than just help men keep their erections. These vibrating cock rings come with bumps and nodules that tease and stimulate a woman's clitoris and let the vibrations flow through the entire shaft of a man's penis. A seemingly simple object takes care of the needs of both partners to make sex fulfilling and extremely pleasurable for both of them.

•Strap-ons and clitoral vibrators

A lot of couples are now into role reversal and other games. Strap-ons typically are used by women but some strap-ons are meant to be used by men too. These strap-ons provide pleasure to both the partners and teases the woman’s clitoris.

•Sex machines

Love swings and other sex machines help couples to have sex on something besides their bed. These machines help you to ease into a variety of positions that stimulate both partners perfectly. Sex machines have gained immense popularity among daring and adventurous couples who are ready to go that extra mile to keep their sex lives healthy.

How to introduce toys in relationships?

Even though many couples have broken the barriers and have easily accommodated sex toys into their sex lives, a lot of couples are still hesitant. This is because one partner is often unsure about the reaction of the other partner. There are many ways to go about this. Some couples say that they want to add fun to their sex lives, some say they have heard so and so raving about a sex toy and some just express their desire by pointing out an article in a magazine or their favourite blog. The worst way to go about it is by saying that you are unhappy with your sex life and want to try something new. Even though you may be honest, the chances are your plan will backfire and you might unintentionally hurt your partner's feelings. Experimentation and communication are two things that can help you to introduce toys to your relationship.

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By Webmaster Hex
Published: 2/13/2010

Some great tips for mixing things up!

Filed under: Great Sex Tips, Relationships

February 8, 2010

Tips to Spice up Your Bedroom Life and Prolong Relationships

Ok, so let’s immagine that you have lived with your parter for a long period that you asking where all the fun has gone.. Your job stresses you out, the kids won’t stop making demands, your in-laws say you never visit, laundry is piling up, and dinner needs to be cooked. You are ready to pull your hair out, and the last thing on your mind is intimacy. What happened? Recall when you met your partner and for the first few months everything was exciting, adventurous and new.? What happened. What went wrong?

 

Sounds like you need to recharge your relationship. Before you complain that there isn’t enough time or your too tired or you’re too old or what will you do with the kids? Please read carefully? Hear me out. So send the kids off to your grandparent’s. So pack the kids off to grandma’s. Here are four sexy tips to put the spice back in your love life.

 

1. Try Any Place But Your Bed

 

Try a table in the kitchen or alternatively throw down a soft rug in front of the fire. If the table feels hard, try a soft couch, jacuzzi or a bath. Broaden your horizons. Expand your horizons! Try the front seat of your car if you drive to a secluded park to watch the stars at night. But certainly don’t ingnore the bed if that’s where you would rather to be. Obviously the sheets need to be clean. Make sure the sheets are clean. Spritz some perfume on the sheets and pillowcases to make your bed even more alluring.

 

2. Sensory Deprivation

 

Use these things to your advantage. Use them to your advantage. Having to rely on senses other than sight will enhance your time together. Add some excitement by blindfolding your lover and lighting incenses. Have some fun by blindfolding your partner and lighting some incense. Your partner will enjoy what he sees and feels after you remove the blindold scarf. Your partner will love the ambience once you remove the blindfold. Don’t forget how important sound is. Pour a bath containing secented oils or relaxing bubbles to create a stimulating mood. For added excitement, slip a silky soft blindfold over your partners head and gently tick and tease them with a feather. For kicks, make your partner wear the blindfold while you tease and tickle with a feather. The unknown is very sexy.

 

3. Intimate Massage

 

Start slow with a deep, sensuous massage. Get some wonderfully scented oils and prepare for a very unforgettable night. Don’t use cooking oil or baby oil when giving a massage because those oils clog pores and they don’t smell very good. Buy some aromatic oils and get ready for a sensuous night.

 

Start at the feet and work your way up. Use your thumbs and fingers along the arches and calves, following the natural contours of the muscles. Make sure to massage your partner’s most sensitive areas such as the hips, back, and shoulders. Using sex toys will make massage even more sensuous. Foot and hand massages are very relaxing, and a vibrator on sore feet will relax your partner like never before. Waterresistant. If you enjoy a little romance in the bath, buy some waterproof vibrators and commence the massage in the water. will make your wet sexy games even more stimulating sex toys will make your wet sex play even more enjoyable. Once you give your partner a massage, it’s your partner’s turn to treat you. and electric massagers remember to use one’s that are not made of phthalates and latex vibrators and personal massagers remember to chose one’s which don’t contain latex as this could trigger an allergy.

 

4. The Big “O” Isn’t The Be All And End All

 

Remember that when it comes to enjoying each other, the trip can be more fun than the destination. Keep your mind in the here and now, and enjoy the scents, touch, and taste of your partner. Take the pressure off of each other by focusing on how good you make each other feel without having to explode in fireworks every time you get down to it.

 

With these handy tips soon you and your partner will find the zing that had been missing from your love life. With your busy lives you will find it necessary to schedule play dates. Make sure you enjoy regular play time with your partner and experiment with the time that you do have. The sky’s the limit!

 

Elizabeth Black is a writer who lives on the Massachusetts coast next to the ocean with her husband and four cats.

Great Article on Reviving your sex life….

Filed under: Sexuality and Health, Great Sex Tips

January 21, 2010

Revive your sex life (before it's too late)

SEX & RELATIONSHIPS | Embracing intimacy can relieve stress, boost immunity

January 20, 2010

BY DR. LAURA BERMAN

Sexual fitness is a crucial part of a happy and healthy life. Studies have shown that an active sex life has numerous physical and emotional benefits, including decreasing stress, improving the immune system, and promoting a healthy reproductive system. Not to mention, an enjoyable sex life can help bond you and your partner and keep your relationship strong.

Despite these numerous benefits, many people neglect their sexual fitness. Unfortunately, when you ignore issues in your sex life, whether it is a lack of libido or a sexual response issue, they can fester and cause serious damage to your relationship and your sexual confidence.

Are you are ready to resuscitate your sex life before it is too late? Here's how:

Visit your doctor. Your physical health and sexual health are linked. A visit to your doctor can help ensure that everything is working smoothly.

To the ladies out there, this includes a visit to the gynecologist! Not only are regular pap smears and cervical exams important for detecting potential health issues, these visits also are a good time to talk to your doctor about sexual complaints. Your gynecologist can help you with a wide array of concerns, from helping you determine which birth control method is right for you to treating difficulties, such as painful sex.

Create a healthy lifestyle. Your sex life can be negatively affected by poor lifestyle choices such as a high-fat diet, lack of exercise, lack of sleep and stress. Smoking and excessive drinking also can affect your sexual response.

When you eat well, stay active, and get plenty of rest, you won't just see the effects on your waistline — you also will see the effects in your sex life. Your libido and sexual response will improve, and you will feel more confident and sexy in your own skin.

Look in your medicine cabinet. Sometimes poor sexual fitness can be caused by medication. For example, oral contraceptives cause reduced testosterone production and increased production of the sex hormone binding globulin (SHBG), which reduces circulating levels of testosterone. These hormonal shifts can lead to decreased sexual desire in women.

So what do you do if you want to maintain your sexual fitness — without risking pregnancy? Try a low-dose estrogen pill. You also might consider NuvaRing, a vaginal ring with a low dosage of hormones that is inserted monthly. NuvaRing is not processed through the liver and therefore does not increase levels of the sex hormone binding globulin (SHBG).

Other medications such as anti-depressants, antihistamines (such as Benadryl, Allegra, and Claritin), and anti-cancer drugs also have been associated with decreased sexual desire. Ask your doctor about similar medications that might have a decreased incidence of sexual side effects.

Exercise your Kegels. Kegels are an absolutely essential part sexual fitness. By clenching and releasing the Kegel muscles (the muscles that control your urine flow), you will strengthen your pelvic floor and tighten your vaginal muscles. As a result, your orgasms will be stronger and more frequent, and your partner will love the sensation of your strengthened vaginal floor. You can do them throughout the day and build up your reps daily, and you can even do them during sex for added intensity!

Embrace your sexuality and make your sexual fitness a priority. Your whole life will benefit as a result.

Dr. Berman hosts "The Dr. Laura Berman Show" from 4 to 6 p.m. weekdays on Oprah Radio (on XM 156/Sirus195). She also is a regular guest on "The Oprah Winfrey Show" and "The Dr. Oz Show."

Sex boosting exercises for men…

Filed under: Sexuality and Health, Great Sex Tips

November 25, 2009

5 Exercises for men to boost their sex life

Move over, Viagra, regular exercise could be the best medicine for a man to improve his sex life.

Man's body

5 Exercises for men to improve their sex life (Getty Images)

You know that working out is good for your health. But did you know that hitting the gym could also help you have better sex?

Working out three to four times a week can do a lot to help your sexual technique, flexibility, and endurance. So what types of exercise are best for better sex? Here are the highly recommended five “sex exercises.”

Sex exercise #1: Weight lifting
Strength training could be just what the doctor ordered for your sex life. The reason – weight lifting causes the body to produce testosterone, which is the primary precursor for the male sex drive. In fact, some studies have linked short intense exercise, such as weight lifting, with increased testosterone levels. So go for push-ups, sit-ups and crunches. These muscle-building exercises can help lead to better sex by strengthening the shoulders, chest, and abs. Strong upper body strength can increase stamina since these muscles are used during intercourse.

Sex exercise #2: Kegels
Doing Kegels is considered a good sex exercise for men because these exercises can help endurance and control by toning the pubococcygeus (PC) muscles – the ones that let you stop the flow of urine mid-stream. Named after Los Angeles physician Arnold Kegel, they strengthen the muscles in your body’s pelvic floor, which can lead to better sex. Men can use Kegels to delay ejaculation by contracting these muscles just before orgasm. To do Kegels, start by interrupting the flow of urine when going to the bathroom to get familiar with your PC muscles. After that, you can do Kegels anytime and any place by squeezing the PC muscles. Hold for 10 seconds, relax, and do as many reps as you can before tiring.

Sex exercise #3: Yoga
Want to shake up your sex life with some new positions? Practicing yoga will give you better sex by allowing your body to get into creative positions for maximum pleasure during intercourse. Yoga poses that improve pelvic muscles are the Bow Pose, Peacock Pose (also called the Forearm or Elbow Balance) and Shoulder Stand.

Sex exercise #4: Fast walking
In a study of 31,000 men over age 50, Harvard researchers found that aerobic exercise resulted in a 30 per cent lower risk of erectile dysfunction (ED). More specifically, according to another study, aerobic activity that burns at least 200 calories per day (equal to fast walking for two miles) can significantly lower the risk of ED. Brisk walking is thought to help ED by improving circulation and blood flow. Fast walking, running, and other aerobic activities keep your blood vessels clear. The result can be stronger and longer erections. Vigorous activities, such as running and brisk walking, also release endorphins and relax you, which can boost sexual performance.

Sex exercise #5: Swimming
In another Harvard study of 160 male and female swimmers, swimmers in their 60s reported sex lives comparable to those in their 40s. Since sexual activity can be an act of endurance, long-distance swimming can keep you going and going like the Energizer bunny. Swimming for at least 30 minutes three times a week will increase sexual endurance and also lead to weight loss, which can also lead to better sex. A randomized, single-blind study of 110 obese men with ED found that losing just 10 per cent of their body weight improved sexual function in one third of the men. And it’s no secret that losing excess body fat will help attain those six-pack abs and make you more attractive to potential partners. The result: better sex!

Try doing some (or all) of the above workouts to improve your sexual technique, endurance, and flexibility. Your lover will be impressed with your sexual powers and, as a side benefit, you’ll get healthier and fitter along the way.

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