Over the course of my career as a sexuality educator I have had a plethora of women ask me about oral sex techniques and tips. There is no doubt that men love oral sex!  Not only is it very pleasurable but it is also an intense expression of intimacy so it is natural to want to refine your skills and be sure you are doing all you can to make it a great experience for your partner.

 In many ways it is not rocket science. All it takes is some effort, concentration and most importantly the desire to want to learn and please your partner. So I put together the following list of some tips to get you started down the road of oral pleasure! Check them out and try them next time you are with that someone special.

1. You don’t have to wait for your man to get an erection to give a great blow job! In fact, sucking a soft penis can usually get him hard fairly quickly. So go ahead-make the first move! He will not only love it, he will be IMPRESSED.
2. Oral sex is not just for the bedroom! Try it in the car, in other rooms of the house or wherever you and your partner find exciting. Don’t be afraid to mix it up!
3. The Joy of Cooking-let food be your friend! Try chocolate sauce, whipped cream, or anything you think would taste better while licking it off your partner! Show his your appetite!
4. Wrap your lips over your front teeth so you won’t bite him or your teeth won’t scrape against his penis!
5. The tip of the penis, called the glans, is extremely sensitive!! Try tracing a figure 8 or the alphabet with your tongue here. See if he can tell what dirty words you are spelling!
6. Use your hand as well as your mouth for extra stimulation. Wrap your hand around the shaft of the penis while you have the tip in your mouth.
7. Don’t forget the testicles or the perineum, which is the area between the testicles and the anus. This is all very sensitive and will drive your man wild!
8. It is not the depth! Great blowjobs have nothing to do with deep throating! You do not have to and should not expect to be able to get the entire thing in your mouth at once!  The majority of nerves are on the tip and the shaft responds more to touch, licking and kissing than just sitting in someone’s mouth.
9. Find the Frenulum! It is another good friend! A nickel-sized area just below the head of the penis on the side that is away from his body when he is hard, this area is very sensitive!
10. Try putting an Altoid or Blue Ice cough drop in your mouth. The menthol and other ingredients will stimulate his nerves and ad to his excitement and pleasure.